Life Lessons

Give Me a Ring

Give me a ring, okay?  No, not that kind of ring!  I’m not looking for bling, or a proposal.  I just want to talk – have a convo – a good, old-fashioned phone call.  Remember those?

As a teenager, I holed up in my bedroom after dinner, chatting on the phone with my friends, even though I’d seen them all day at school.  During college, the frequent calls with my family helped to ease the miles apart.  The giddy calls with boyfriends – “you hang up first,” “no you hang up first” – and the angst-filled conversations with would-be-could-be-might-be-boyfriends were something else.  Over the years, I’ve treasured the out-of-the-blue calls from far-away friends and favorite cousins I don’t see nearly as often as I’d like.  Whenever I place a call that I know will brighten someone else’s day, it gives me a lift, too.

Clearly, the e-mail and the text message have changed the way we communicate and those “the phone’s just been ringing off the hook!” days seem gone forever.  I don’t have anything against emailing or texting.  Each has merit.  The email can relay a large chunk of information quickly, and seamlessly.  And nothing beats a text when you’re running late to meet someone and you need to let them know.

But this past week, I got on the phone.

First, I placed a long-distance call to an old college friend. He and I caught up and reminisced, and an hour went by in a flash.  Then, a long-overdue call to a friend who lives only a few miles away but whose demanding work life, like mine, has limited her leisure time.  Our talk was validating and restorative.  And finally, I checked in on a friend I haven’t seen in nearly a year but who’s been on my mind lately.  When she shared with me the sad news that her father recently passed away, I tried to offer comfort, and wished I’d called sooner.

Remember that old television commercial for the phone company?  The tag line was “reach out and touch someone.”  I used to think it was corny.  Now, not so much.


6 thoughts on “Give Me a Ring

  1. Sheila Reiter says:

    Dear Chris, Boy, did this ring a bell. Sometimes the phone rings when you’re in the middle of something that just has to be done. You stop what you’re doing and answer the phone, somewhat annoyed. It’s someone who needs you. You’re glad you picked up. Whatever you were doing can wait; this person cannot. How would I feel if my phone never rang? Thanks for the wake up call, honey! Love. Sheila


  2. MaryAnne says:

    You hit the nail on the head, as usual! My kids rarely call… everything is text today. I’d rather have a real conversation, however brief. Hope you’re enjoying this wicked summer… we’re not. Hugs……

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  3. Terésa Carter says:

    It’s so true. The only thing better than the phone call is a visit. My sister was in town recently for her summer visit and for the first time in a long time, we called and then visited our aunts and uncles. Oh how that warmed their hearts — and ours too. This week, I will make an over-due phone call to a childhood friend. Thanks for the reminder, Chris!


    • Teresa – thanks for your comment. I’m glad to hear you had such a lovely visit from your sister and that the two of you called and then visited your aunts and uncles. They must have been thrilled to see the two of you. I’m sure your friend will be happy to hear from you, as well. Let’s all “reach out, reach out and touch someone, call up and just say hi” like that old commercial encouraged us to do! Chris


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