I keep hearing “just because you don’t have a prince doesn’t mean you’re not a princess.” Although several people have taken credit for this saying, it’s the cutest three- and five-year-old sisters who’ve helped me figure out the whole princess thing.
What is it about the princess narrative anyway? Is it the notion of being rescued? When my office mate brought her two young boys to the LEGOLAND Discovery Center, she was appalled that one of the activities was all about ‘saving the princess.’ “The princess,” she insisted, “can save herself!”
While there have always been princesses who fall into a deep sleep, or lose their glass slipper, in recent years, we’ve seen a whole new crop of them. This new breed may be self-reliant and reflect greater diversity, yet their end game still seems to be marriage. Which brings me to the handsome prince. Of course the princess wants to marry him. He’s a great catch – not to mention major eye candy.
But there’s a time before the prince enters the picture. As I watch my friend’s two tiny daughters get all caught up in the princess craze, I can tell you, they’re not thinking about any prince. For them, it’s all about the girly, glittery princess costumes. They just want to wear the pretty dresses. That’s all it takes to make them feel special. They twirl around in their princess dresses and show me that you don’t need a prince to be a princess.
4 thoughts on “To Be A Princess”
I loved the perspective you found in this princess business. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I swore she was not going to own anything pink (I didn’t know any better) by age 3, she didn’t owned anything that was NOT pink and she was a princess until age 4 or so but now almost 10, she is a girl with a short hair-cut, refusing to wear a skirt or a dress and she is the one doing the rescuing…
Indeed! And many parents who swear they will not let their sons play with water pistols, supersoakers, etc but one day a french fry or carrot stick is pointed and the “war games” begin!
I blame video games on a lot of that. But french fries – oh no – how can you ban the kiddos from the crispy goodness of fried potato dipped in ketchup!
Your your daughter sounds like a modern woman to me! You are doing all the right things with her!